Thursday, July 27, 2006
What I'm reading
Best fiction I've read in a long time
Suite Francaise
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1400044731/sr=8-1/qid=1154013099/ref=pd_bbs_1/103-7711167-8739010?ie=UTF8
Forget the fact that the author was a Russian Jewish emigre that got sent to die in the camps...this is just a damn good story! It's about the German invasion of France and its aftermath. The insight that this woman had into true human nature is amazing. So much of what she wrote is till true today about the ability of people to throw others under the bus. I've heard said that at the end of life there can be amazing clarity. You can really see that Irene understood humans, French and German. No one is a monster...no one is an angel. Amazing book...go read!
Suite Francaise
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1400044731/sr=8-1/qid=1154013099/ref=pd_bbs_1/103-7711167-8739010?ie=UTF8
Forget the fact that the author was a Russian Jewish emigre that got sent to die in the camps...this is just a damn good story! It's about the German invasion of France and its aftermath. The insight that this woman had into true human nature is amazing. So much of what she wrote is till true today about the ability of people to throw others under the bus. I've heard said that at the end of life there can be amazing clarity. You can really see that Irene understood humans, French and German. No one is a monster...no one is an angel. Amazing book...go read!
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Why can't he be angry?
Lost both of his sons in war..
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060726/ap_on_re_us/second_son_killed
and he says he can't be angry. Hell, I haven't lost anyone and I'm angry about the sinking shithole that our Fearless Leader has gotten us into.
That poor family
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060726/ap_on_re_us/second_son_killed
and he says he can't be angry. Hell, I haven't lost anyone and I'm angry about the sinking shithole that our Fearless Leader has gotten us into.
That poor family
Dear Katie
I like to read Katie Allison Granju's blog.
I've followed her writing for years. She's a big attachment parenting promoter and while I wouldn't call myself an AP'r, I certainly have sympathies that go that direction.
Several years ago, her and her husband divorced. He tried to get custody...messy..messy...messy. Katie has expressed some anger occasionally over her co-parenting issues but overall seems really devoted to the idea that co-parenting is best for her kids. As with any blog, there are the random bitter negative comments on Katie's blog and some her "gentle readers" make snarky comments alledging the anonymous negative comments are from Katie's ex or his new victim..I mean fiance. Evidently, Katie's ex gets really pissed off about this and asks her to remove them. It seems really controlling and strange...Especially if he's not the insulting anon comment poster. Katie wrote a posting basically saying that no one should say anything mean about the ex. It inspired me to write this letter to Kate (with an intro to Katie's ex)
Dear Katie's Ex
Believe it or not, you can't control what people write about you online. When you try to, you look like a choad...a total choad. If you want people to know your side of the story, write your own blog. Katie is very kind about you for the most part. If you think she isn't you should read about other ex-wives that had their husbands cheat on them and then divorced.
BTW: Your upcoming marriage is doomed unless you deal with your anger at Katie. I don't know if it comes from guilt about the demise of the marriage or if you're just a bitter and spiteful person, but your current relationship is going to fail if you don't deal with all the leftover emotion you have for Katie.
Dear Katie,
I'm giving you the finger...not the middle one, the index one and I'm pointing it to the nearest therapist. You and Choad-Boy are divorced. That means he doesn't get to tell you what to do about anything...including the kids. He has input/consulting rights there and *he* has control of them when they're with him...but he can't tell you to remove slightly snarky postings from your blog. That's just strange.
Sometimes, with controlling angry people, giving them what they want just makes it worse. A nice, "You know, Choad-Boy, what people write about you in cyberspace is really not under my control. " Setting appropriate boundaries is very difficult with someone who you have 3 kids with especially when he obviously has unresolved emotions about his relationship with you. Appeasement may give a short term gain but rarely works in the long run. Just ask Neville chamberlain! But to help your upcoming marriage succeed you should think about some therapy or strategies for boundary setting with him.
Most Sincerely,
Debby
Debby
I've followed her writing for years. She's a big attachment parenting promoter and while I wouldn't call myself an AP'r, I certainly have sympathies that go that direction.
Several years ago, her and her husband divorced. He tried to get custody...messy..messy...messy. Katie has expressed some anger occasionally over her co-parenting issues but overall seems really devoted to the idea that co-parenting is best for her kids. As with any blog, there are the random bitter negative comments on Katie's blog and some her "gentle readers" make snarky comments alledging the anonymous negative comments are from Katie's ex or his new victim..I mean fiance. Evidently, Katie's ex gets really pissed off about this and asks her to remove them. It seems really controlling and strange...Especially if he's not the insulting anon comment poster. Katie wrote a posting basically saying that no one should say anything mean about the ex. It inspired me to write this letter to Kate (with an intro to Katie's ex)
Dear Katie's Ex
Believe it or not, you can't control what people write about you online. When you try to, you look like a choad...a total choad. If you want people to know your side of the story, write your own blog. Katie is very kind about you for the most part. If you think she isn't you should read about other ex-wives that had their husbands cheat on them and then divorced.
BTW: Your upcoming marriage is doomed unless you deal with your anger at Katie. I don't know if it comes from guilt about the demise of the marriage or if you're just a bitter and spiteful person, but your current relationship is going to fail if you don't deal with all the leftover emotion you have for Katie.
Dear Katie,
I'm giving you the finger...not the middle one, the index one and I'm pointing it to the nearest therapist. You and Choad-Boy are divorced. That means he doesn't get to tell you what to do about anything...including the kids. He has input/consulting rights there and *he* has control of them when they're with him...but he can't tell you to remove slightly snarky postings from your blog. That's just strange.
Sometimes, with controlling angry people, giving them what they want just makes it worse. A nice, "You know, Choad-Boy, what people write about you in cyberspace is really not under my control. " Setting appropriate boundaries is very difficult with someone who you have 3 kids with especially when he obviously has unresolved emotions about his relationship with you. Appeasement may give a short term gain but rarely works in the long run. Just ask Neville chamberlain! But to help your upcoming marriage succeed you should think about some therapy or strategies for boundary setting with him.
Most Sincerely,
Debby
Debby
Saturday, July 22, 2006
Time + Anger = More Blogging
Shrub strikes again.
Hezbollah should just stop their shit...so says our Illustrious Leader
http://today.reuters.com/tv/videoChannel.aspx?storyid=de5f5880401a37e1c7063acbc6cf81ce2f790ac8
for the video of Blair and Bush discussing the state of the middle east at last week's G8 summit.
Pro:
Hezbollah should just stop their shit...so says our Illustrious Leader
http://today.reuters.com/tv/videoChannel.aspx?storyid=de5f5880401a37e1c7063acbc6cf81ce2f790ac8
for the video of Blair and Bush discussing the state of the middle east at last week's G8 summit.
Pro:
- It did seem that Bush had a grasp of what was happening and why.
- He gets that Kofi and the UN should be involved.
- Bush also understands that Hezbollah was pushed into this by Iran to draw fire from Iran in the upcoming UN Security Council meetings
- Barbara Bush must be just ready to slap the crap out of her son for his bad manners. (And I think W could use a good slap :))
Con:
- Bush was talking with his mouth open
- Blair sounded smarter and more statesman-like than Bush. The whole "Blair! Yo! Buddy...Wazzup?" little too fratboy for the G8 I think.
- The obvious lack of geographical knowledge displayed (see the conversation with the Chinese leader) makes the whole US look ignorant of the rest of the world
The NYTimes has an article online about the event.
There is free registration for those who are interested.
What are we coming to?
http://www.rawstory.com/showoutarticle.php?src=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.reviewjournal.com%2Flvrj_home%2F2006%2FJul-20-Thu-2006%2Fnews%2F8589438.html
Let's not feed the homeless....if people are too poor to eat, screw 'em.
Let's not feed the homeless....if people are too poor to eat, screw 'em.
Would Oprah want to be *my* friend?
I'm guessing......
NO!
I'm sure she'd find me horribly judgemental and sarcastic...the two qualities that I think many of my friends like best about me :)
I ask this question because someone read my blog and posted a comment...I went to her blog http://hoosierstudentnurse.blogspot.com/ and found someone who sounds a lot like me (into animals...CASA stuff) but thinks Oprah would like her. I like Oprah well enough....but I think she'd hate me.
NO!
I'm sure she'd find me horribly judgemental and sarcastic...the two qualities that I think many of my friends like best about me :)
I ask this question because someone read my blog and posted a comment...I went to her blog http://hoosierstudentnurse.blogspot.com/ and found someone who sounds a lot like me (into animals...CASA stuff) but thinks Oprah would like her. I like Oprah well enough....but I think she'd hate me.
